Asmi
My First Memories of Dabbling into online BDSM still Empower me after more than a Decade
If not for these memories, my exploration of sexuality would perhaps have stopped a few years ago, when I was single for a long time and didn’t know if I could find someone like me.
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How much support is enough?
This article was originally published here. This article not based on any studies I know of, but then I know…
By Asmi
January 3, 2022
It’s not ‘just’ play!
Play is not only about cocks, balls, vaginas, paddles, or anything that happens between two consenting adults in the bedroom. It’s also about what goes on in a masochist’s mind before they submit to a cane, or a whip, and before they orgasm from the pain.
By Asmi
December 1, 2021
शायद उम्र सिर्फ एक क्रमसंख्या ही नहीं होती? अपनी यौनिकता और अनेक वर्षों के अपने यौन रुझानों का बोध
2006 में जब पहले-पहल मैं दिल्ली आई, उस समय मेरी उम्र 22 वर्ष की थी और मुझे यौनिक व्यंग्य या…
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Are they people or just a number?
You see, numbers are tricky, data is tricky. More importantly, data is dehumanising. Add sexuality and intimacy to this and the waters get even murkier. Maybe it’s good to leave a few things unaffected by too much data. Maybe we do not want to talk about data and sexuality. Maybe we instead want to talk about why data around gender and sexuality must not be recorded, and instead, maybe focus on why we should honour every kind of sexual preference which is within the purview of the safe and consensual.
By Asmi
May 15, 2021
Maybe age is more than just a number? My discovery of my sexuality and sexual preferences over the years
Age is not just a number, like it is often said to be. It is a lot combined together. It is about grace, it is about exposure, it is about knowledge, it is about the ability to fight back. And yet, in endless other ways, age IS just a number.
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सहयोग कितना हो?
ये लेख किसी रिपोर्ट या रिसर्च पर आधारित नहीं है, लेकिन सच ये है, कि हम जानते भी तो बहुत…
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November 14, 2020
डर के आगे जीत है!
अपनी यौनिकता को समझने की कोशिश,अपने आप में एक नए किस्म का प्रयास है। इस बात का मतलब क्या है?…
By Asmi
November 14, 2020
How much support is enough?
In the middle of this pandemic, can one seek sexual support in the form of a hook up with one’s best friend, ‘just because’? Is it redefining boundaries, is it sympathy sex, is it simple indulgence, or is it something that one or both might later resent?
By Asmi
November 2, 2020
Do we dare?
Exploring sexuality is innovative in itself. What does that mean? Well at the outset, the very fact that we are willing to explore our bodies, their sexual expression, their ability to experience pleasure in so many different ways, and that we go beyond social norms is groundbreaking in itself.
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August 3, 2020
क्यों हर यौन व्यवहार क्विअर व्यवहार नहीं है?
अपने क्वीयर मित्रों की सहयोगी होने के कारण जब लोग मुझसे यह पूछते हैं कि क्या मैं भी क्विअर हूँ,…
By Asmi
July 21, 2020
From ‘I wish I knew!’ to ‘Is it right to tell them this?’
I wish my elders had told me about more than just bleeding when they talked about menstruation. I wish they…
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Sexuality And Looking Beyond Safety
We all talk of ‘safe’ as some place where we are not in danger. Well, the truth is there is danger everywhere. So, maybe before we even delve into the subject of safety and sexuality, it is imperative that we take a moment to pause and see what safety and sexuality could even mean.
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April 1, 2020
Windows: My Introduction To Sexuality Through Literature
All these works have made me acutely aware of how gender, sexuality, and religion, are so deeply intertwined in the social fabric. Also, how conditioning can significantly influence one’s understanding of literature, or the lack of it.
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March 2, 2020
Movie Review: Delta of Venus
Lawrence may have given Elena a world and a voice. But it was she who chose to delve into the unknown world of sexuality. It was she who chose to see the beauty and the richness of pleasure within communities of sex workers, soldiers, the elite, all alike. She alone chose to discern as well as reconcile love, as we commonly seem to know it, with a life in which she is capable of many loves.
By Asmi
February 3, 2020