The I Column
In Between Deadlines and Debriefs: On Friendships at Work
In those moments of doubt, when we wonder whether we can really make a difference in the world, it is often our work friends who remind us why we began.
By Nandhini Jaishankar
November 17, 2025
On Loverships, F**kships and Friendships
How am I bringing myself into the erotic moment I am sharing with a lover?
By Andy Stephen Silveira
October 15, 2025
September 18, 2025
Love in May
My birthday is in May, a peak time of summer heat in the Awadh region of Uttar Pradesh. We knew that it was going to be hot, but did not have any idea of how bad it could get.
By Anahita Koshur
August 19, 2025
La esquina de mi corazón
To be politically queer in a new language is an intoxication of all senses, revelation, outrageous freedom.
By Cat D
July 16, 2025
मर्दानगी को पोषित करती मान्यताएं
किशोरावस्था के दौरान जब हम अपनी यौनिकता से रूबरू हो रहे होते हैं, तब सामाजिक तौर पर हमे बताया गया जेंडर ही निर्धारित करता है कि हम अपनी पहचान कैसे बना रहे हैं जो ज़्यादातर मामलों में हमारी पूरी ज़िन्दगी को प्रभावित करती है।
By Naresh Kumar
May 19, 2025
Behind the Curtains
… when they believed we were of the right age to marry, they urged us to “leave everything behind and get settled”. When marriage is considered such an important institution in our society, why not teach us about consent as well?
By Bhargavi Vyas
February 18, 2025
My First Memories of Dabbling into online BDSM still Empower me after more than a Decade
If not for these memories, my exploration of sexuality would perhaps have stopped a few years ago, when I was single for a long time and didn’t know if I could find someone like me.
By Asmi
Of filter coffee, marriage and mixed celebrations of sexuality
Marriage also feels complicated when one approaches it through the lens of feminism. Marriage throws in two people and often their families into a system designed to perpetuate patriarchy, subjugate women, and bind men and women (in heteronormative marriage) into strict roles in the marriage.
By Vani Viswanathan
January 13, 2025
Between Generations: The Courage to Ask, The Courage to Answer
My mother’s openness gave me a profound glimpse into how deeply conversations – or their absence – shape our sense of self.
By Sahana G
December 18, 2024
एक ठंडी सुबह में सूरजमुखी
मेरे जेंडर के बारे में उनकी प्रतिकारिता हमारी बातचीत में हर जगह होती है, लेकिन वह मुझे यह भरोसा देने में भी देर नहीं लगातीं कि मेरी ग़ैर-विषमलैंगिकतावादी यौनिकता ने उन्हें कभी परेशान नहीं किया।
By Neel
October 17, 2024
Glass Onion
It was not uncommon for me to feel like an imposter, helping others connect with themselves while struggling to do the same myself.
By Janice G.
September 18, 2024
एकल जीवन की सराहना
Growing up, for me, has been about accepting that the loneliness and sadness woven into the fabric of my being do not go away with entering conventional arrangements like monogamous relationships or marriage.
By Siddhi Pandey
August 20, 2024
एक ‘क्वीयर’ मातृभाषा का अभाव
पूरे देश में ऐसे कई क्वीयर लोग होंगे जो अपनी ‘मातृभाषा’ में अपनी क्वीयर पहचान को एक नाम देने में नाकामयाब रहे हैं।
By Anonymous
June 18, 2024
The Paradox of Social Media
I have been working in the field of sexuality for some years but it was an Instagram post that got me to take the HPV vaccine seriously.
By Nidhi Chaudhary
February 15, 2024