The I Column
Love, Sexuality and Pleasure
It was so wonderful when I got sexual pleasure from someone I loved, someone I had fun with, someone I trusted, and someone whom I liked as a person!
By Anonymous
February 3, 2020
LOVE SEX + ROBOTS
Even with all the risks that AI poses, it seems a safer bet than humans trying to exploit dating apps to make quick money.
By Siddharth Narrain
December 18, 2023
Lost and Found
From today’s vantage point I see that I missed an opportunity to use PT and sports in school as a way to get to know and move my body. This in turn held me back from viewing myself as a sexual being.
By Kajol Hinduja
April 6, 2023
Looking outside, seeing inside
I find that my own clothes are all just pieces of a larger archive I’m slowly constructing: an archive of the women I love, a half-hearted attempt at mimicking what I love.
September 20, 2023
Looking For Someone To Talk To
I would say that growing up in a small village would make it difficult to find love or companionship, but I have since moved to a city and found that it was difficult to find love there, too. It did not stop me from trying, though.
By Wesley D'Souza
April 1, 2022
Living with an invisible disability and seeking wellbeing
I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia around July last year. For those of you who do not know what Fibromyalgia is, it is a condition characterised by chronic pain spread over some tender points across the entire body.
By Rituparna Borah
Learning to Be an Honest Parent
One of the very first stories my daughter wanted to be told was how she was born. It was easy for me because I had a caesarean section but I knew that at some point I had to share with her that children come out of the vagina.
By Venu Arora
October 17, 2016
Law and Sexuality
I graduated from a Law School in Bangalore in 2012 and moved back to my hometown, Lucknow, U.P., where I…
By Neetika Vishwanath
June 1, 2014
Journey with a transman: A self-reflective note
At present Neel[1] and I live-together, part-time. I write part-time because I stay alternately with him and with my sister…
By Sutanuka Bhattacharya
May 1, 2020
It’s Time to Take Back Our Minds!
Audre Lorde once said, “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
By Rituparna Borah
February 3, 2017
It’s not ‘just’ play!
Play is not only about cocks, balls, vaginas, paddles, or anything that happens between two consenting adults in the bedroom. It’s also about what goes on in a masochist’s mind before they submit to a cane, or a whip, and before they orgasm from the pain.
By Asmi
December 1, 2021
Is Privacy Merely An Illusion To Be Rejected?
Is there anything about my sexuality that is private anymore? What happened to the unspoken rule of not discussing one’s sexual life in the open? What happened to the sleazy jokes and the complete silence around sexuality that I remember from the previous generation?
By Asmi
September 2, 2019
Is BDSM Just a New Age Fad and the Latest ‘In Thing’?
BDSM has been existent in discussion all the way from the time of the Marquis de Sade. However, the only thing that ’Fifty Shades of Grey’ seems to have done is shine the spotlight on a lifestyle that has existed and been judged for quite some time now.
By Asmi
December 3, 2018
In Appreciation of Singlehood
Growing up, for me, has been about accepting that the loneliness and sadness woven into the fabric of my being do not go away with entering conventional arrangements like monogamous relationships or marriage.
By Siddhi Pandey
February 1, 2021
If you want safety, you must toil for it.
‘Take charge; build safe spaces for yourself.’ ‘Be the change you want to see.’ ‘Inclusion starts with I.’ My…
By Samarth Khanna
October 4, 2021